"You are not like other girls"

Ever heard of that pick-up line? Believe it or not, a couple of guys have tried that on me. 

A.k.a why "you are not like other girls" is not a compliment. 

When I was younger and clueless and lack in a sense of solidarity with fellow sisters, I used to think that this particular line is a compliment. I feel special, okay? Who wouldn't? I mean it feels like you're telling me that I am one of a kind. I am special. I deserve more in life.

I hate to break it to you but; I am special. I am one of a kind. I am not like other girls. Other girls are not like other girls. We are special, we are one of a kind, we deserve more in life than an oppressive society that is hellbent on making fun of everything we do. 

So, this post is going to analyze how this line shouldn't be a compliment. 

Oh God, how do I start this.

Let's just start with my own experience.

Despite being an awkward girl with a severe resting bitch face (and now I have a resting sad face on top of my resting bitch face), some boys actually tried to flirt with me. The line "you are not like other girls" came up a couple of times. I turned all of them down, of course. I was fabulous and they weren't.   

Though there was this one guy that was kind of okay at that time. He was better and seemed genuine about things compared to other boys. SOOOO YEAH, I swooned a bit. He kept telling me how I was "different" and "unique" and "unlike other girls" because even middle school me already packed with high-level of sass and I was quite 'edgy'.  

*cringes*

So yeah, I took pride when being told "you are not like other girls".

Sadly, as I grew up, learn and read more things, I have come to a realization that "you are not like other girls" is not a compliment. It's a grade A misogyny. It's a thinly veiled jab at girls. I've never questioned who are these other girls or why am I not like other girls because girls have been pitted against each other for every single aspect of life. 

It's a sick and toxic system.

When someone compliment you, they shouldn't bring the whole population of girls. 

When someone say "you are not like other girls" they meant that other girls don't fit into //THEIR// egoistical frame of beauty standard. They are saying that other girls do not deserve their respect because other girls do not fit into //THEIR// egoistic, impossible and probably misogynistic standards on how girls should be.

I guess the whole "you are not like other girls" as a jab at other girls is null and void when you are proposing to someone BUT, I am  not gonna talk about this proposing to someone because it's kind of complicated. 

I am going to continue to talk how we should not fall for this pick-up line.

So, tl;dr:

1. It's not a compliment.
2. It's a jab for other girls.
3. It's a way to devalue other girls.

So yeah. Don't fall for it. Why would you fall for it, though? The person who told you that "you are not like other girls" just straight up told you that they disrespect and devalue women on daily basis? 

Yes, I am like other girls. They're awesome.