This School in China Is Aiming to Restore Women's Virtues and Moralities

humanity never cease to fail me.

victim blaming is wrong and this is how ridiculous it sounds.

So. Hello everyone.

I know the hottest topic right now is Hollywood actresses speaking up about their experience of harassment conducted by powerful men in the entertainment industry. Most of the actresses only spoke up because society has been cultivating this culture called rape culture. A culture that exists, in my opinion, because society allows men to use and wield their power. I am not saying that women can’t be abuser because they can be an abuser but- it’s a long and winding road to go down and I don’t have the time or energy to discuss it in this post. It is basically a culture that allows trash feels powerful through inappropriate behaviors. Women, too, can be an abuser and a sexual predator. So. The world is trash. People are trash. I am shit, you are shit, everyone is shit. The world will never get better unless people start to hold everyone, especially boys, accountable for their actions.

Omg, Audrey, you are such a man-hater. Why did you say especially boys you just hate men because you never had a boyfriend. Have a chocolate, woman!

Yeap, I am sure someone out there would say that. I say especially boys because girls have been held accountable for their actions since they were little. For example, in Harvey-what’s his face’s case, in Delevigne’s statement (yes, Cara Delevigne) she said that she felt guilty because she had been molested by Harvey-what’s his face. Girls have been held accountable for everything that happened to them even though it’s literally not their fault.

Even Michelle Obama herself said that we love our sons but we raise our daughters.

In this post I am not going to delve in too deep about the whole rape culture and victim blaming. This post is just going to scratch the surface about victim blaming.

These are short examples how ridiculous victim blaming sounds.  

Oh, that boy pulled your hair on the playground? That’s because you have hair!

Oh, that boy made fun of your bra strap that is showing? That’s because you wear bra! Be ashamed of it!

Oh, that boy lifted up your skirt? That’s because you didn’t wear safety shorts underneath!

Oh, you got catcalled on the street? That’s because you wear jeans and have legs!

Oh, you got groped in the club? That’s because you wear that skirt!

Oh, that man yelled at you how bad he wants to put his genitalia in yours? That’s a compliment, you should just take it!

Oh, you got molested? That’s because you didn’t want to give him your number!

Yeap.

 

The summary of summer

First of all, I thought there would be more writing.

I didn't write anything.

h o diggity dang that backfires quickly

story time people!

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I'm an introvert which means I have my mood where I can deal with people and go crazy but I also have my mood where I just don't want to deal with anything or anyone.

Today is my I'm-so-done-with-everything mood. Naturally, I don't want to deal with anything or anyone. If it is not life-death situation, I don't wanna know, I don't care, I don't wanna deal.

I also have a couple of defense mechanisms I always use to pull myself from an unwanted or an awkward situation, for example, this post. As you all know that I am currently in a foreign country so, I utilize this situation as much as possible. I speak Chinese, sure, not fluent but enough to help me pass my courses and survive daily. I also speak English, enough to write a whole post in English. I guess, that's enough background introduction.

ANYWAYS. So. Sometimes, when my fight or flee instinct is triggered, seventy percent of the time, I'd choose flee. In China, I use my lack of language skill to flee a lot of situations that would require me talk to people or explain something to people. When I am in my I-just-can't-deal, I scare local people away by pretending I don't speak Chinese and vice versa, I scare foreigners away by pretending I don't speak English. It works all the time.

I KNOW HOW PROBLEMATIC THIS IS, OKAY, I KNOW.

It's inappropriate and unfair and just downright mean but you knooooowwwwwwww sometimes I am in a very switched-off mode that I just can't deal. Sometimes I even ignored everyone's messages--this is probably why I don't have friends. But you know when you can't deal, you just can't.

So. Just few hours before I made this post, a foreigner approached me in the supermarket. At first, they only said a friendly 'Hi'. I am still in the I-just-can't mood so I responded with a "nihao". Everything is fine and dandy until they actually talked to me, trying to strike a conversation. I was like "听不懂，我不会说英文" and they were like "that's great! you can teach me Chinese" and I was like...

f      u

c         k

So yeah, long story short, I introduced myself as a girl named 夏 (Xia, which means summer, shut up, I panicked) and I came from Shanghai and majoring in Chinese Literature. I gave them my number but once I reached my dorm I blocked their number. I know they probably just want to learn Chinese from a Chinese student the thing is: I am not a local student, I was just an introvert looking for a way out of social interaction. Let me live. Don't @ me.

stop valuing women based on their virginities 2k17

disclaimer: I might be a little bit too radical or too tumblr-y sjw when it comes about this issue but hey, hear me out: I might be onto something here. English is not my first language so there might be some awkward wordings here and there.

And this post is, like, heavily directed for people who wants to have sex, if you're an ace, this post might not be for you?

back up pls and thAnk

I think I have explicitly described that I am big and fat in this blog a couple of times before.

[KPOP MV] 도원경(桃源境) (Shangri-La) - VIXX Review

Watch 도원경(桃源境) (Shangri-La) - VIXX here.

 

 

Wow. This MV sure has a lot of names.

 

 

Mother's Day?

I am going to say this and you all gonna say that I am a bad child for saying this.

I honestly don't know when Mother's Day is.
Everyday is Mother's day yanno.

no

 

 

 

I actually know when Mother's day is. It's the second Sunday of May but in Indonesia, Mother's day is on 22nd of December. So, what I am trying to say is, I don't know when exactly to say happy mum's day to my mum.

 

....so it is 2AM and I am blasting pop songs

I probably shouldn’t talk about this and just avoid this topic in general but what can I say? I just can’t stay in my lane. Everything in this post will be my personal opinion/take on the whole thing that’s been going on for quite a while.

So, don’t take the post too seriously. I am just another faceless blogger on the internet.

I might use a lot of blunt/literal words because I am writing this at 1 AM while blasting BTS songs. Yeap. THIS IS MY LIFE HAS BECOME PEOPLE. Anyway, it’s 1 am and I just feel like this is an important issue to write about and what’s the point of having a blog if you can’t write this sort of stufF?

 

Keep your head down and walk faster

Guess what I am going to talk in this post. Catcalling and stares. I am going to talk my personal experience so my experience might be very different than other people. Now, now, if you are one of those people with archaic mindset despite that it is 2017 who victim-blame and tell girls to dress like they respect themselves, kindly go away. Thanks!

Anyways. This is 2017, I DO NOT HAVE TO emphasize that we should not reduce women to what they wear. It is getting boring and it is literally twenty-seventeen.

Sigh.

This post has a lot of Indonesian so not 100% English.

[KPOP MV] Rumor - K.A.R.D Review

Rumor - K.A.R.D M/V

Aaaaaaye, like I said in my About Me page, I would be doing occasional Kpop MVs review and this is the first.

Edited: for some reason, Blogger won't allow me to use the video's embed code so I used the link instead.

STUDY IN CHINA: Preview of how my uni looks like. Kind of.

This post only has pictures, guys. No reading required.

ALL PHOTOS WERE TAKEN BY ME.

This is disgusting.

The Hero that We Know We Don't Need

Before any of you go: here she goes again, the ruthless, ranting, radical feminazi..

Yeah, well, kindly eat a wiener.

An open letter

Life didn’t come with a “How To Be A Decent Person” manual…

..so the next best thing is to try and try until we get it right.

Just like that Hannah Montana song.

An update on life

Hi everyone!

So, I am here to give an update on my life. I am currently on winter break and it's ending. I am going back to school on 27th or something so I don't have much time. I am sorry to say that there'll be no continuation for my story because I haven't written anything. I mean, I know how it's gonna end and stuff but for the middle part.. Not so much.

I am tired and stuff. Then again I am always tired even though I've done nothing. I just feel like I am going without any direction in life and I just want it to end. That's how I've been living my life ever since I graduated high school. When I graduated high school, I felt like I have everything figured out but then in uni I realized, I know no shit. So there's that.

Without knowing, I feel like I just want everything (life) to just end because I am tired and I don't want to do this anymore. I just don't want to do anything anymore. So yeah. I've been trying to get a little bump or anything that would stimulate my spirit and what nots but yeah still not happening.

And I have writer's block.

That sucks.

So yeah. I am trying and I hope all of you are trying in life too. Bye!